Frankelly Valdez, April 09th,2010
At some point of their lives, men are forced by their women to answer one of the most riddling questions that they could ever come up with. “How do I look?” As men our sense of appearance is solid and hasn’t changed much since we are children. But for women it is something very different and confusing, from multimillion dollar cosmetic industries to highly expensive diets just to stay in what the society claims to be in “the standard”, we will explore these facts and expose the reality and changes that men are forced into making today.
What is the most riddling question? “How do I look”? Your first and most immediate thought is “Why, ill just tell her she looks good and that will end this conversation and make her feel like I love her all at the same time”, but be careful my friend! It is not a good idea to act too quickly; you are in very dangerous territories here. “So what shall I do?” You ask. Well for starters, you must first take those milliseconds that she permits for free thinking about if she looks good or not and invest them in analyzing how distorted the image and self esteem of a woman really is and how it affects us men. We see it all around us, girls want to be like Britney Spears and they think that by buying her latest perfume in some way their men might have hallucinations with Britney as their wife caused by the Toxic fumes.
For us men it isn’t like this or at least not to all of us. What we consider “looking good” might just be as simple as keeping ourselves shaven and trimmed. There we go! Now for your eyes you are looking as bashing and sexy as George Clooney, after that is done we go on our way, back to eating and fixing stuff. We are happy with our appearance for at least ten minutes and then we totally forget about it for the rest of the day and that is it, but then, what happens when you go over that line? When the society in a certain place turns on what you consider “looking good”, this is an aspect that is always changing and is very different in many places of the world.
This rare case of men who are permitting themselves to be hypnotized by the media into believing what the standard man must look like are becoming like women, sickly worried about appearance and weight. But what is the cause of all of this and why? Well my friend, do you remember the last time that you went to the local convenience store? “Yeah”, well then what brand of razors did you buy? “Well I bought Gillette, because it feels good and it tickles my brain”. No, you bought it because you see how the girl always comes to rub the guys chin after shaving with it. As funny and as ridiculous as it sounds, it is the truth, they have to sell products, the way to do it is to set standards and make you think that by buying a certain product you will achieve it. Here comes in play the slowly growing process of making men conscious about their looks.
Do you remember the seventy’s when men thought that hairy chests where the biggest pride? Or how about when teenage boys thought that a mustache was all the rage? This shows for a fact that the standard for both men and women change with time. Men these days are even more prone to appearance criticism than many years before. Metro sexual is the term for men who take that line of hetero sexuality and stomp all over it with their pair of banana republic cowboy boots. Why would I want to become like this? Does it mean more chicks? Will I gain more success? Not necessarily, some men think that women like that man, that friend of yours that shaves more than just his face and can’t go a day without exfoliating and moisturizing and only wears Calvin Klein boxer-briefs well it is a good thing for you of course, but if you have no self confidence to go with it, than it is worthless.
Only with women this standard is a major thing, clothing with its seasons and fashions, makeup and cosmetic products and even plastic surgery. Why doesn’t this standard affect us men in such a drastic way? “Well I don’t know”, yes my friend, and you do not know because you just don’t care, you have too many things in your life that are ten times more important than thinking if that jean jumpsuit that you are wearing is in style, or if it even matches your adorable multicolor fanny pack.
So buddy, come back out of your daze and answer the question for your female companion, look her straight in the eyes and gently say, “Honey you are the most beautiful woman I have ever seen”, congratulations you have now earned yourself some smooching points. Rest assured, lie back down in the couch eating potato chips in your Power Rangers full body pajamas and do not worry about a thing, because in you’re mind, you will always be a pretty boy.
http://frankyurban.aisites.com, Frankelly Valdez, 2010
